Tuesday, 30 December 2014

Why Do Men Stupefy Themselves? Leo Tolstoy on Why We Drink | Brain Pickings

Why Do Men Stupefy Themselves? Leo Tolstoy on Why We Drink | Brain Pickings



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“The seeing, spiritual being, whose manifestation
we commonly call conscience, always points with one end towards right
and with the other towards wrong, and we do not notice it while we
follow the course it shows.”
“The people of the United States spend exactly as much money on booze alone as on the space program,” Isaac Asimov quipped in a witty and wise 1969 response
to a reader who had berated him on the expense of space exploration. At
no other time of the year are our cultural priorities more glaring than
during our holiday merriment, which entails very little cosmos and very
many Cosmos. Long before Asimov, another sage of the human spirit set
out to unravel the mystery of why such substances appeal to us so: In
1890, a decade after his timelessly enlightening spiritual memoir and midway through his Calendar of Wisdom magnum opus, Leo Tolstoy penned an insightful essay titled “Why Do Men Stupefy Themselves?”
as a preface to a book on “drunkenness” by a Russian physician named P.
S. Alexeyev. Eventually included in the altogether excellent posthumous
volume Recollections and Essays (public library; free ebook), Tolstoy’s inquiry peers into the deeper psychological layers and philosophical aspects of substance abuse and addiction.



Decades before the founding of Alcoholics Anonymous and nearly a
century before alcohol abuse was recognized as a disease by the World
Health Organization, Tolstoy writes:

What is the explanation of the fact that people use
things that stupefy them: vodka, wine, beer, hashish, opium, tobacco,
and other things less common: ether, morphia, fly-agaric, etc.? Why did
the practice begin? Why has it spread so rapidly, and why is it still
spreading among all sorts of people, savage and civilized? How is it
that where there is no vodka, wine or beer, we find opium, hashish,
fly-agaric, and the like, and that tobacco is used everywhere?

Why do people wish to stupefy themselves?

Ask anyone why he began drinking wine and why he now drinks it. He
will reply, “Oh, I like it, and everybody drinks,” and he may add, “it
cheers me up.” Some those who have never once taken the trouble to
consider whether they do well or ill to drink wine may add that wine is
good for the health and adds to one’s strength; that is to say, will
make a statement long since proved baseless.

Ask a smoker why he began to use tobacco and why he now smokes, and
he also will reply: “To while away the time; everybody smokes.”


Illustration for 'Alice in Wonderland' by Lisbeth Zwerger. Click image for more.
And yet Tolstoy peers beyond this blend of apathy and pluralistic ignorance, into the true root of substance abuse:

“To while away time, to cheer oneself up; everybody does
it.” But it might be excusable to twiddle one’s thumbs, to whistle, to
hum tunes, to play a fife or to do something of that sort ‘to while away
the time,” “to cheer oneself up,” or “because everybody does it”” that
is to say, it might be excusable to do something which does not involve
wasting Nature’s wealth, or spending what has cost great labour to
produce, or doing what brings evident harm to oneself and to others…
There must be some other reason.
He offers a compassionate explanation of that other cause, that deep
dissonance that rips the psyche asunder by pulling it simultaneously
toward fulfillment and self-destruction — a nonjudgmental insight
gleaned as much by “observing other people” as by observing his own
experience during a period when he “used to drink wine and smoke
tobacco”:

When observing his own life, a man may often notice in
himself two different beings: the one is blind and physical, the other
sees and is spiritual. The blind animal being eats, drinks, rests,
sleeps, propagates, and moves, like a wound-up machine. The seeing,
spiritual being that is bound up with the animal does nothing of itself,
but only appraises the activity of the animal being; coinciding with it
when approving its activity, and diverging from it when disapproving.

This observing being may be compared to the needle of a compass,
pointing with one end to the north and with the other to the south, but
screened along its whole length by something not noticeable so long as
it and the needle both point the same way; but which becomes obvious as
soon as they point different ways.

In the same manner the seeing, spiritual being, whose manifestation
we commonly call conscience, always points with one end towards right
and with the other towards wrong, and we do not notice it while we
follow the course it shows: the course from wrong to right. But one need
only do something contrary to the indication of conscience to become
aware of this spiritual being, which then shows how the animal activity
has diverged from the direction indicated by conscience. And as a
navigator conscious that he is on the wrong track cannot continue to
work the oars, engine, or sails, till he has adjusted his course to the
indications of the compass, or has obliterated his consciousness of this
divergence each man who has felt the duality of his animal activity and
his conscience can continue his activity only by adjusting that
activity to the demands of conscience, or by hiding from himself the
indications conscience gives him of the wrongness of his animal life.


Illustration for Herman Melville's 'Pierre' by Maurice Sendak. Click image for more.
Tolstoy extends this duality beyond alcohol and into the broader human dilemma:

All human life, we may say, consists solely of these two
activities: (1) bringing one’s activities into harmony with conscience,
or (2) hiding from oneself the indications of conscience in order to be
able to continue to live as before.

Some do the first, others the second. To attain the first there is
but one means: moral enlightenment — the increase of light in oneself
and attention to what it shows. To attain the second — to hide from
oneself the indications of conscience — there are two means: one
external and the other internal. The external means consists in
occupations that divert one’s attention from the indications given by
conscience; the internal method consists in darkening conscience itself.

As a man has two ways of avoiding seeing an object that is before
him: either by diverting his sight to other more striking objects, or by
obstructing the sight of his own eyes just so a man can hide from
himself the indications of conscience in two ways: either by the
external method of diverting his attention to various occupations,
cares, amusements, or games; or by the internal method of obstructing
the organ of attention itself. For people of dull, limited moral
feeling, the external diversions are often quite sufficient to enable
them not to perceive the indications conscience gives of the wrongness
of their lives. But for morally sensitive people those means are often
insufficient.

The external means do not quite divert attention from the
consciousness of discord between one’s life and the demands of
conscience. This consciousness hampers one’s life: and in order to be
able to go on living as before people have recourse to the reliable,
internal method, which is that of darkening conscience itself by
poisoning the brain with stupefying substances.

One is not living as conscience demands, yet lacks the strength to
reshape one’s life in accord with its demands. The diversions which
might distract attention from the consciousness of this discord are
insufficient, or have become stale, and so in order to be able to live
on, disregarding the indications conscience gives of the wrongness of
their life people (by poisoning it temporarily) stop the activity of the
organ through which conscience manifests itself, as a man by covering
his eyes hides from himself what he does not wish to see.


Illustration for Herman Melville's 'Pierre' by Maurice Sendak. Click image for more.
He returns to substance abuse as a symptom of this deeper pathology:

The cause of the world-wide consumption of hashish,
opium, wine, and tobacco, lies not in the taste, nor in any pleasure,
recreation, or mirth they afford, but simply in man’s need to hide from
himself the demands of conscience.
More than that, Tolstoy considers the role of “stupefaction” in
compartmentalizing good and evil in our conscience, acquitting the acts
of the latter from the demands of the former:

When a man is sober he is ashamed of what seems all right
when he is drunk. In these words we have the essential underlying cause
prompting men to resort to stupefiers. People resort to them either to
escape feeling ashamed after having done something contrary to their
consciences, or to bring themselves beforehand into a state in which
they can commit actions contrary to conscience, but to which their
animal nature prompts them.

A man when sober is ashamed to go after a prostitute, ashamed to
steal, ashamed to kill. A drunken man is ashamed of none of these
things, and therefore if a man wishes to do something his conscience
condemns he stupefies himself.
One particular remark strikes with its chilling prescience in light
of the date rape epidemic exposed in recent years, where it is not
uncommon for the perpetrator to deliberately drug the victim:

Not only do people stupefy themselves to stifle their own
consciences, but, knowing how wine acts, they intentionally stupefy
others when they wish to make them commit actions contrary to conscience
that is, they arrange to stupefy people in order to deprive them of
conscience.


Illustration for Herman Melville's 'Pierre' by Maurice Sendak. Click image for more.
But such crescendos of immorality, Tolstoy takes care to note, are
the most dramatic but not the most common cause for alarm in our
relationship with alcohol — he is equally concerned about the small,
daily, incremental stifling of the conscience by ordinary people:

Everyone knows and admits that the use of stupefying
substances is a consequence of the pangs of conscience, and that in
certain immoral ways of life stupefying substances are employed to
stifle conscience. Everyone knows and admits also that the use of
stupefiers does stifle conscience: that a drunken man is capable of
deeds of which when sober he would not think for a moment. Everyone
agrees to this, but strange to say when the use of stupefiers does not
result in such deeds as thefts, murders, violations, and so forth when
stupefiers are taken not after some terrible crimes, but by men
following professions which we do not consider

criminal, and when the substances are consumed not in large quantities
at once but continually in moderate doses then (for some reason) it is
assumed that stupefying substances have no tendency to stifle
conscience.
We assume, Tolstoy argues, that if no crimes are committed under the
influence of alcohol, there is no harm done to the conscience — ours or
that of others. But this obscures the more subtle, everyday ways in
which we flee from ourselves — from our highest selves — by getting
drunk:

But one need only think of the matter seriously and
impartially not trying to excuse oneself to understand, first, that if
the use of stupefiers in large occasional doses stifles man’s
conscience, their regular use must have a like effect (always first
intensifying and then dulling the activity of the brain) whether they
are taken in large or small doses. Secondly, that all stupefiers have
the quality of stifling conscience, and have this always both when under
their influence murders, robberies, and violations are committed, and
when under their influence words are spoken which would not have been
spoken, or things are thought and felt which but for them would not have
been thought and felt; and, thirdly, that if the use of stupefiers is
needed to pacify and stifle the consciences of thieves, robbers, and
prostitutes, it is also wanted by people engaged in occupations
condemned by their own consciences, even though these occupations may be
considered proper and honorable by other people.

In a word, it is impossible to avoid understanding that the use of
stupefiers, in large or small amounts, occasionally or regularly, in the
higher or lower circles of society, is evoked by one and the same
cause, the need to stifle the voice of conscience in order not to be
aware of the discord existing between one’s way of life and the demands
of one’s conscience.
Tolstoy goes on to examine how “stupefiers” appeal to us differently
during different stages of life, why we seek them most urgently when
confronting challenging moral questions, and what we can do to foster in
ourselves the spiritual conditions that would render such escape and
control strategies unnecessary.

Complement Recollections and Essays, which is a spectacular read in its entirety and is available as a free ebook, with Tolstoy on “emotional infectiousness,” how to find meaning in a meaningless world, his letters to Gandhi on why we hurt each other, and his reading list of essential books for every stage of life.

Tuesday, 9 December 2014

How I Escaped A Recent Depression (And How To Spend Free Time) | How To Beast

How I Escaped A Recent Depression (And How To Spend Free Time)

 How I Escaped A Recent Depression (And How To Spend Free Time)




I’ve been in Spain for the last two weeks. I’m here visiting family.

While I’ve been here the amount of free time I’ve had has been
through the roof. I’m only working a couple hours a day for my IT job,
and I don’t have to train any personal training clients.

I’ve used a lot of this time to work on a new book I’m writing. And
I’ve used another chunk of it to spend time with family, of course.
However, the amount of free time I have is still exponentially more than
I’m used to.

Too Much Free Time Can Cripple You

The first day or two, this free time felt liberating, like I could
just bask in the sun of southern Spain, swim laps in the rooftop pool,
and enjoy life. But this quickly changed. I soon found myself face up,
on my bed, staring at the ceiling for hours straight. My mind wandered
to places that it should never wander. I began to feel crippled by
obsessive thought patterns about stupid things:

– How was I going to pass the next three weeks I’m here?

– What’s going to happen with this girl I’ve been seeing in the states the past month or so when I return?

– Should I continue working on my business, blog, and books or strike into new territory?

– Should I train my clients privately when I return or sacrifice some
income and do it at a gym that can provide health insurance and a
membership?

At the surface, these things don’t seem so bad. But the thoughts they
led to became increasingly marked by insecurity. I questioned my
self-worth, my progress, and the value of my life. I can’t rationally
explain how I got from point A (the type of thoughts listed above) to
point B (the depressive thoughts that developed), but I think you can
probably relate.

My Initial Attempt At Treatment

After experiencing this shit for a few days in a row, I realized it
was something I needed to address. Otherwise, this could get worse and
worse, and I’d end up wasting my time in beautiful Spain worrying about
pointless bullshit.

So I began to meditate whenever this pattern started to emerge – and
I’d feel immediate relief. However, I’d stay inside working on my book
or some IT work and just minutes later my mind would wander into the
abyss of negative thoughts. I’d try to pair this meditation with
affirmations and positive self talk, but this served as a temporary fix
just the same.

Then I Took Action (READ: Got The Fuck Outside And Did New Things)

I finally said FUCK IT, this surface level treatment isn’t doing
SHIT. And I decided that I would do something new, OUTSIDE of the house,
every single day. Yesterday I went pedal boating on the river with my
brother:

sevilla

Today I’m going to go out shopping and talking to strangers, and then
connect with an old friend for drinks tonight. Tomorrow I’m hitting up a
water park with my brother. Sunday, to a Sevilla futbol game. And next
week I scheduled a trip to Marrakech, Morocco that will be an adventure.

It Was An Incredible Reminder Of How Fragile And Susceptible To Depression We All Are

This isn’t a situation I’d been in for a while. In the states, I’ve
been so busy between work, women, habits, and business that I haven’t
had the time to think so much. I developed an inaccurate self-image of
invincibility and unshakable confidence. I WASN’T PREPARED TO BE ALONE
WITH MY THOUGHTS FOR AN EXTENDED PERIOD OF TIME.

While the treatment for this condition is essentially the same thing
that I’d been doing at home (ie. constantly doing things), it was an
amazing reminder of just how mortal I really am.

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Sunday, 7 December 2014

Is Anxiety Really a Gift? | Brain Blogger

Is Anxiety Really a Gift? | Brain Blogger










Four Gifts of Anxiety Cover


Anxiety is most known as a “thinking”
disorder which can be evidenced through symptoms such as chronic
worrying. Science now shows that human beings have on average between
60,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day and according to author Joe Dispenza,
roughly “70% of those thoughts are negative in nature.” Negative
thoughts create negative emotions which over time neurologically create
redundant behaviors such as rushing, nervousness, preoccupation with the
future as well as the past. How is it then, that anxiety could be a
gift?

The truth is the actual symptoms itself may not be a gift, however
the experience of the symptoms are. It turns out thoughts and emotions
are made up of energy. They are simply molecules and atoms in motion.
These send off a vibrational frequency. When the frequency is low (has
little movement) this corresponds to low level emotions such as fear,
insecurity and guilt. When the frequency is high (more movement) this
corresponds to higher emotions such as courage, love and appreciation.
This information has been scientifically tested and validated by
scientists and clinicians such as Dr. David Hawkins.

This information allows us to approach, interpret and treat the symptoms of anxiety in
a new way. Rather than attempt to beat, cure, prevent or control the
symptoms the focus becomes on learning how to convert lower vibrational
emotions into higher ones. This creates quite a shift in the field of
psychology not only in the role of a therapist but also for the client.
When applied consistently techniques such as visualization, mindfulness,
and breathing have proven to transform emotions such as fear and worry
into faith. As this occurs, new interpretations and insights develop.
Similar to receiving clues in a board game symptoms become assets rather
than barriers. For example, an emotion such as shame when released from
the body has the capacity to uncover the gift of empathy.

Transforming emotions such as guilt into courage can be quite rewarding however, as stated in The Four Gifts of Anxiety
“a life with your gifts does not mean a life without challenges,
vulnerability or pain. Instead, a life with your gifts allows you to
become empowered by the very same symptoms you once believed
disempowered you.” The symptoms of anxiety when viewed in this light
become a guidepost rather than a barrier. Rather than being a signal for
what is wrong, think of a symptom such as increased heart rate as a
marking of a buried treasure (in this case a buried emotion) waiting to
be discovered.

Through skill development and awareness one can begin to surrender
the stigmas and stereotypes anxiety has formally attached to. Some of
these include subconscious beliefs that you have anxiety rather
than a reflection of your current experience (I am experiencing worry).
It is not until each and every one of us breaks the habit of becoming
our symptoms, instead choosing to pay attention to how they may in fact
be our greatest ally, as they often point out exactly which emotions are
looking to be acknowledged and cleared so we may open up the pathway to
our gifts.

References

Dispenza, Joe Ph.D. (2014) You Are the Placebo. Hay House, Inc. pp 45.

Hawkins, David R. M.D., Ph.D. (1995, 1998, 2004, 2012.) Power vs. Force. Hay House, Inc.